A volume meter will never give you a good hint about the perceived volume, especially in a mix.
And I doubt that anyone will sacrifice the dynamics of the amp, for the sake of unifying the volume.
I truly trust your ears!
Thanks for the confidence you have placed in our ears and I truely trust you.So I was convertet.
What the limiter had done for me was to bring extremely(!) different levels more into line.It not set it up to the same level.I knew that and just used it at home and never live.That was ok for me but now and after checking this out my limiter really seems to kill some liveliness and vitality of the sound too.Impudence-haha! 
I banished it from the signal chain and everythings sounds fine.I try to work more with an Volumepedal in future. THX!